Friday, May 22, 2015

Jude's Birth Story

This is WAY overdue but I need to get it all typed out before I forget!!


Jude's estimated due date was July 4, 2014. My pregnancy was going well and much like it did when I was pregnant with William. Due to my water breaking 4 weeks early with William my midwife had me take extra Vitamin C and Fish Oil with Jude to hopefully keep that from happening again. I made it past the 35 week mark with much relief. I then made it past the 37 week mark and by that time I was so ready and excited for him to make his arrival knowing he would no longer be considered pre-mature.  

On Monday, June 23rd (38 weeks and 1 day), I started feeling Braxton Hicks contractions. My stomach would tighten and loosen on and off throughout the day. That evening, they were happening about 3-5 minutes apart but they weren't painful, just strong enough for me to notice them. I called my midwife and she asked me a few questions and then told me to take a Benadryl and try to get some sleep. If I was having false labor, the Benadryl would stop it and allow me to get some rest. If it was real labor, I would continue to feel contractions. I remember we had asked my brother in law to stay the night anyway just in case. That way he would be at the house with William if we needed to head for the hospital in the middle of the night. I took the Benadryl and went to bed and was able to get a full nights rest. 

On Tuesday, June 24th I was having the same kind of contractions but still not painful. I went to bed that evening (didn't take Benadryl) and I woke up around 3am with a contraction. I got up to get a drink of water and walk a little bit and it was able to subside and I was able to go back to sleep. 

On Wednesday, June 25th I didn't have as many contractions and it was a pretty uneventful day. 

Thursday, June 26th was also a fairly uneventful day. I went to bed that evening and around 3am I woke up to a pretty strong contraction. I got up and started walking around, got a drink of water and continued to feel the contractions every 3 minutes and they were more painful. Walking around is suppose to lessen the pain and the contractions were staying consistent. I woke Ben up and said, "I think I might need to call Amy." I told him what was happening and at the time I felt really silly and hesitant to call her in the middle of the night if this wasn't the real thing. I called her anyway and she told me to go ahead and go to the hospital. We called Ben's brother to make his way to our house. As soon as he arrived we left for the hospital. When we arrived to the hospital it was about 5:45, they took me straight to triage. I had a few contractions on my way up but nothing unbearable. When they checked my cervix, I was already at a 6! They were surprised that I was already at a 6... apparently I wasn't acting that far along. They got me to a room immediately and Ben's mom met us there. (We had asked her to be in the room with us. She was in the room with William and was a huge help through the labor process). 

The nurse that was on duty when I first got to the room didn't make me too happy. She hooked me up to an IV right away (even though I tested N for group B strep) and had the contraction monitor on me and everything. I was not looking forward to laboring with her as my nurse. Then, shift change happened at 7:00am and I got a lovely nurse who had tons of experience with non-medicated labors and had even gave birth to her children at the Allen Birthing Center (my midwife's practice) and was good friend's with Amy. It was perfect!! As soon as she came in she took me off the fluids and took the monitors off of me so I could move around however I wanted to. Thank goodness! I walked around a bit and sat on the birthing ball until the contractions got to be too much. I layed on the bed for a while and I remember being so impatient. I was working my way through the contractions but I was sooo ready for Jude to be in my arms. I kept saying, "When is he going to be here?", "How much longer?", "I just want to be done!" I had to keep reminding myself that I got through it with William and I can get through it again. I also had to remind myself that contractions are so much worse once your water breaks. My water broke first with William and I was able to get through that labor, so I should definitely be able to handle laboring with Jude. I kept getting hot and cold just like I did with William and Ben and his mom were so patient with me, getting me cold wash rags and doing anything they could to make me somewhat comfortable. 

Around 8:00am I was getting so tired and I was starting to feel a little pushy but wasn't sure if I was quite ready yet. Amy said they could check me if I wanted or we could just keep moving forward and let my body start pushing on its own. I really wanted to know how close I was getting so I went ahead and asked her to check me. When she did, I was at a 10!! I was so relieved. I started pushing shortly after. The bed wasn't working so well so I got up and they had me sit on the toilet to push. (I know, I know... sounds weird and NO the baby wouldn't have fallen into the toilet!) Sitting on the toilet allows your body to be in a natural pushing position and when you are birthing a baby, gravity is your best friend!! I had some awesome pushes while sitting on the toilet and Jude was able to move down further. Because I made so much progress we went ahead and moved back to the bed to finish pushing. My water broke once we got back to the bed and we welcomed Jude into the world shortly after at 9:04am on Friday, June 27, 2014. 

Jude was 7lbs. 6oz. - 20inches long. Full head of dark brown hair. No complications and was able to stay in the room with us for the entire hospital stay. 

We are so blessed to have our sweet Jude join our family! We love him so! 






Tuesday, July 8, 2014

Family of Four!

Gone are the days of being a family of three. We are officially a family of four and loving it!

Look who's here! 


Jude Maxwell Ivy 
June 27th - 9:04am
7lbs. 6oz - 20in. long




We are so excited to finally have Jude join the family. He is such a calm, sweet baby and so far only cries when naked or when I don't nurse him fast enough. He likes to nurse every couple hours on average but we have had a couple nights where he went 3-4 hours which was SO nice! Let's hope I am not speaking too soon! ;) We all know once a routine is established with a baby, it is sure to change.

William loves his new baby brother but he has definitely noticed some changes. For the most part he is adjusting well but this past Sunday, Ben took him to church especially so he could socialize in nursery and he wanted NOTHING to do with it. He kicked, screamed, cried etc. and no snack or sticker could coax him into staying. We've had no problems with him and nursery in the past. From 18 months he has been so happy to go but not this time. Today I had arranged a playdate with one of his little buddies, he has been to this friends house plenty of times before and was so excited to go until we got there. Then, he started to say, "I dont like Logan's house" and didn't want to go inside. He just clung to me for about 10 minutes. Thankfully, he warmed up and Logan's mom was able to walk him upstairs with no fuss and he happily played for a couple hours. Phew!



Birth Story to come.



Tuesday, February 25, 2014

It's a BOY!


We are thrilled to announce that Baby #2 is another Boy... 
expected to arrive on the 4th of July! 

I have loved having William in our family and I can't wait to welcome our 2nd baby boy into our family! I just know we've got a fun, messy, rowdy future ahead of us! :) 


How Far Along? - 21 Weeks and 4 Days

Total Weight Gain? - 9lbs.

Maternity Clothes? - Not specifically, but definitely using the belly band. 

Stretch Marks? - Just the ones from my last pregnancy

Sleep? - Pretty good, although I toss and turn all night. 

Best Moment This Week? - Revealing our baby's gender and family dinner out in Burk!  

Miss Anything? - hot showers, more energy

Movement? - ALL the time! Especially at night. 

Food Cravings? - Burgers, fries, beef, Mac and cheese (healthy, I know)

Anything Making Me Queasy or Sick? - Not at the moment

Gender? - 100% BOY!

Labor Signs? No

Symptoms? - Headaches, Hunger and Round Ligament Pains

Belly Button in or out? - Out

Wedding Ring, On or Off? - On

Happy or Moody most of the time? - Happy, today. 

Looking forward to: Spring BREAK!



Tuesday, January 7, 2014

Looking forward to July!


because... 


Baby #2 is on his/her way! ETA = July 5th!


How Far Along? - 14 weeks and 3 days

Total Weight Gain? - Zero (lost weight again like I did with William)

Maternity Clothes? - Not yet

Stretch Marks? - Just the ones from my last pregnancy

Sleep? - Tossing and turning, could be better. 

Best Moment This Week? - Hearing the baby's heart beat and seeing him moving around on the hand-held sono. 

Miss Anything? - not feeling hungry all the time

Movement? - Not feeling any yet.

Food Cravings? - Raspberries and Cheetos but not together ;)

Anything Making Me Queasy or Sick? - Not at the moment

Gender Prediction? - I would be more surprised if it was a girl... I am thinking another boy since this pregnancy is a lot similar to the last one. 

Labor Signs? No

Symptoms? - Headaches, occasional hand rashes, round ligament pain

Belly Button in or out? - In

Wedding Ring, On or Off? - On 

Happy or Moody most of the time? - Happy, today. 

Looking forward to: Finding out the gender in early March... it feels so far away!

Tuesday, November 5, 2013

Ectrodactyly Ectodermal-Dysplasia Cleft-Lip/Palate Syndrome (EEC)


Many of you know that William was born with hand and feet differences. We have learned over the past year that the correct terms for these differences are called, Syndactyly (fusing/webbing of fingers) and Ectrodactyly (missing and additional digits). We had no known indication that he would be born with these differences. I had a very normal, healthy pregnancy. Nothing was detected on ultrasound because I only had one done at 20 weeks and we didn't notice anything different there. We declined all special tests because it simply wouldn't matter to us.

I first noticed his missing finger after he was born and placed on my stomach for Ben to cut his cord. I remember being in awe of him and running my finger up his sweet little palm, trying to calm him. As I ran my finger up his tiny palm it seemed as though he didn't have a middle finger. I thought maybe it just didn't come up with the rest of the fingers so I ran my finger up his palm again and sure enough, he really didn't have a middle finger. I remember expressing that right away... out of shock and concern only hoping the rest of him was okay and healthy. They cleaned him up, gave him a CPAP for 5 minutes, let me hold him for a few seconds and then wheeled him off to the NICU with daddy to make sure everything was okay. I remember when Ben came back to check on me, he told me that William was doing great and told me about the rest of his hands and feet. I don't ever remember asking "Why me or Why us?"... I just remember taking it for what it was and just being so in love with him. Every last bit of him was ours and it made me happy to see him doing well despite being born early and having a low birth weight. He didn't need an IV, he didn't need any extra help breathing, he was doing great. He did have to stay in the hospital for the gavage tube for food (since he was low birth weight - 4lbs. 12oz) and typical monitoring to see that his weight increased. I remember that being a pretty long and exhausting week. We were literally living at the hospital so we could be close to him and so I could breast feed him around the clock.

The Neonatologist told us a little more about William's hands and feet and gave us the correct terms. He told us it could have been passed down from family or an isolated occurrence... and may or may not have a syndrome or syndromes involved. We were referred to Scottish Rite and told we would need to visit them within the first month of William being born. Scottish Rite is amazing... they are extremely knowledgeable and the Orthopedics doctors are absolutely top notch. We are so blessed to live so close to them. They explained to us a little more about William's differences and told us that as far as they are concerned, his condition is pretty mild and he should have normal function of his hands and feet despite the differences. As he has grown and as we have gone back to visit Scottish Rite for check-ups... his hands and feet continue to grow normally for the condition they are in and he has proven to function great. He is walking and picking up things and everything an 18 month old should be doing. Both the Neonatologist and Dr.s at Scottish Rite recommended we see a Geneticist at some point for evaluation and also to see if William has any detectable syndromes.

We went to the Geneticist this past Friday. Dr. Golder Wilson is fabulous. He is so nice, thorough and knows his stuff. We were very pleased with our visit with him. During the visit, he watched as William played with the toys in the room. He talked to us about William's milestones, our family history, William's medical history etc. Towards the end of the 45 minutes he told us that William is very advanced cognitively and that he looks great! He then told us that he sees that William favors what is called "Ectrodactyly Ectodermal-Dysplasia Cleft-Lip/Palate Syndrome or EEC with the exception of no cleft lip/palate. He told us that Ectodermal-Dysplasia is a very rare genetic condition that is used to describe hundreds of different conditions and syndromes all varying in differences. The "ectoderm"  is the outter most layer of cells affecting the hair, skin, nails, teeth, mouth, eyes and sweat glands. They can all be affected at the same time or it can be a combination of 2 or more of these. This explains William's light, sparse hair, his wide-set eyes (although the Dr. stated he also gets that from me)... it also explains his Ectrodactyly that he was born with as well as the Hypospadias (already corrected) that he was born with and the Dacryocystitis that he developed in his eye when he was a month old.

We are trying to soak up all this information.. there is a lot more to learn about this syndrome but we have been told that the outlook is great and that William will be able to live a normal, full life. He may develop issues with little to no sweating later in life so we will have to be extra diligent that he doesn't overheat, there is a possibility of stunted growth and we already know he will have surgeries on his hands (at least) in the years to come but we are grateful that his future looks bright. He has amazed us from day one. His strength and happiness is contagious. He truly is so special to our whole family. We love him so so much.

As a mother, I think we all want the very best for our children. For the most part, I have been so positive and I have been able to just admire William for all he has overcome in the past year and a half. He has been through more than most kids his age and he is hardly 18months! Yesterday was an emotional day for me. I don't know why...but I think things just hit a little hard. Until Friday, we didn't have a syndrome to attach to William's differences and I was fine with that. I guess now that there is an actual syndrome attached (even though William appears to have very mild symptoms), I've now become such a worry wart. I cried a lot yesterday and I can't say the thoughts of "why me?" came into my head... but I did think, "Why him?". I don't want him to struggle... I don't want him to be bullied... I don't want him to lose confidence in his unlimited potential. I don't want him to ever overheat and I especially don't want to be the cause of that! I don't want him to ever think less of himself because he was born with a rare condition. I don't want to see my sweet boy go through these things. But really, who does? What I do want is to be the kind of mother who can instill confidence in my son. I want him to know how much his mommy and daddy and family love him... How much Heavenly Father loves him! I want him to know that he is fearfully and wonderfully made! I want him to find successes in his life and to overcome all these obstacles that he may face. I want him to know how much he inspires us. I want him to know that he can do ANYTHING he puts his mind to. I want him to continue to be so care free and love everyone as he does now and not let the nasty comments of the world get to him. I want him to see how truly special he is and let that be the power behind the difference he can make in this world.

I know that every one of us is different in some way and I know that every one of us has different trials and obstacles to overcome. I know that we were meant to come to this earth to live our specific lives and to learn and grow through our trials. I know that we will all be perfected in the last days and that our bodies will be made perfect all because of the love and grace of our Savior Jesus Christ who suffered and died for all of us. We won't have the struggles that we face now. I know that Heavenly Father has a purpose for our William and I know that he will use William to teach and inspire others as he already has so far. I have Faith that whatever is meant to be will be and I know that Heavenly Father is aware of William and He is also aware of me. He knows the desires of my heart as a mother and I know that he will provide peace and strength as I seek it from Him. My Aunt Kim always says, knowledge is power and I know how true that is. I know that as I learn more about the details of this syndrome that may or may not manifest themselves in William, that I will be prepared to deal with them appropriately. I am SO grateful to have been chosen to be his momma. I am so grateful that Heavenly Father has trusted me to nurture and love him. I feel so blessed to have him in my life and I wouldn't trade him for anything. I love him for who he is and all that he is. He is mine and he is amazing and I couldn't ask for a better gift. I've said it many times before but being a mother is truly the hardest but most rewarding things I will ever do.

To anyone who may be reading this and might have questions... ASK us. When done in a respect manner the best thing a curious mind can do is ASK. Don't wonder or assume. We are so open to curiosity and questions when they are asked with good intention. If your children have questions about someone with physical differences, I think I speak for a lot of families when I say, just ask! There is nothing wrong with curiosity and certainly nothing wrong with recognizing that someone or something is a little different. Create learning moments for those around you and help them recognize how each and everyone of us has something that makes us unique and special, whether it's on the inside or outside.


We love you bubba! 




Wednesday, September 25, 2013

The Past 6 Months

 It will be faster to describe the past 6 months in pictures so hear you go:

William LOVES books. 
If asked what his favorite toy is... books. He loves for us to read to him. He is constantly finding a book and handing it to us to read to him. I believe this has helped encourage his talking. He talks quite a bit and can say many words. He also knows a ton of animals by name (and can say most but not all) including: dog, cat, giraffe, goat, duck, sheep, elephant, bird, bee, turtle, lion, caterpillar, tiger, snake, monkey, rooster, horse, cow. He knows animal noises for cow, tiger, lion, horse, monkey and rooster. 
He knows how to point out a tree, sun, moon, door, barn, car, airplane, boat, pacifier, baby, ball, diaper, wipes, washcloth, bath, book, remote, phone, eyes, shoes, shirt, shorts, nose. As you can see... he has proven to be very smart! He must get it from his daddy! 


William loves making messes!! 
Sometimes it drives me crazy and sometimes I just embrace it and smile because these are some of my favorite pictures!! You can't help but smile when he smiles... even if it is mischievously!




William loves to be outside! 










 He loves to play! 



                                      

                                     








 Loves to Explore and test his limits! 


                                                

                                                





                                           



                                    And he is realizing that sometimes, it's not so easy... or fun!! 

                                           

He loves seeing Shauna and James every afternoon.
(the kids I look after). He definitely looks up to them! 




Like many toddlers, He loves to snack! 









William loves his "To-To" 
(our dog, Toby)






 He loves the car ride home because that's when we get to see "DAAADAAA"! 




 And after a long exhausting day... William loves to fall asleep in Ben's arms, just like this: 


Then, he sleeps like this...


Or THIS! :) 


All... through... the... night!